Crushing It: Why Rushing is Crushing
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For many men, a great day is knocking out a bunch of work in a highly productive fashion. One might even say he is “crushing it” when it comes to his schedule. However, is this rushing mentality crushing us too? Research, experts, and statistics all point to the dangers of a lifestyle driven by speed and haste.
Physical Health Risks
One of the most well-documented dangers of living in a constant state of hurry is its effect on physical health. Chronic stress, a byproduct of hurried living, is linked to numerous health issues, including high blood pressure, heart disease, and weakened immune function. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), 77% of Americans regularly experience physical symptoms caused by stress, including fatigue, headaches, and upset stomachs. Running from one task to another without proper rest only exacerbates these issues, leaving little time for personal recovery.
Moreover, the body’s natural response to stress is the "fight-or-flight" mechanism, which releases cortisol and adrenaline into the bloodstream. While this response can be useful in emergencies, constant activation from a hurried lifestyle can lead to chronic stress, which in turn leads to serious conditions such as cardiovascular disease and diabetes. A study published in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology found that individuals who report high levels of stress are 27% more likely to experience heart disease.
Cognitive Function
Living in constant haste can also take a toll on mental health. A hurried lifestyle is often associated with increased anxiety, depression, and burnout. According to a 2018 report by the World Health Organization (WHO), burnout and stress-related illnesses are reaching epidemic levels, with nearly one in five people suffering from anxiety disorders globally. Neuroscientific research has shown that multitasking—often perceived as an efficient way to manage hurried living—can reduce productivity by as much as 40%.
Diminished Relationships and Emotional Well-being
Hurrying through life can also damage personal relationships. Studies have found that people who live hurried lives tend to struggle with maintaining meaningful connections. They often lack time for deep conversations, quality time with loved ones, or emotional availability, which are vital for healthy relationships. In fact, a study by the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that people who report feeling constantly busy also report lower satisfaction in their relationships.
This lack of connection can lead to loneliness, which is increasingly recognized as a public health crisis. Research from Harvard University indicates that social isolation can increase the risk of premature death by 29%. The constant rush of modern life leaves little time for fostering the deep connections that protect against loneliness.
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- American Psychological Association. (2019). Stress in America: The Impact of Stress. Retrieved from https://www.apa.org
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- World Health Organization. (2018). Mental Health: Burn-out an “occupational phenomenon”. Retrieved from https://www.who.int
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Factors for Mortality: A Meta-Analytic Review. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 10(2), 227-237.

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