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Two Traps Men Fall Into With Their Wives (IMPACT HARD DEVOTIONAL: DAY 8)

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The Mandate Of A Man

Two Traps Men Fall Into With Their Wives

“The LORD God also said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make for him a suitable helper.’”

Genesis 2:18

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In the Genesis 1 creation story, God created a different aspect of the universe over the course of 6 days. At the end of each day, the story tells us, God concluded by looking at His creation and saying, “It is good.” When God created mankind on the 6th day, He looked at His creation and said, “It is very good.”

The first time God ever said something was “not good” in the Bible is this verse right here- “It is not good for the man to be alone.” Isolation, loneliness, and total independence have never been a part of God’s plan for men. In Eve, God created “a suitable helper” for Adam. Adam held the primary responsibility and leadership to fulfill God’s mandate to rule, subdue, and fill the world with His glory… but he could not do it alone. Neither can you.

There are two traps that men often fall into which God addresses in this verse-

Trap 1: I Can Do It All By Myself - No man can fulfill his potential and his purpose on his own. If you are married, God has given you a suitable helper to come alongside you in completing God’s mission for your life and family. Whether you are single or married, you still need a community of men to come alongside you in navigating the complexities of life, love, and leadership. Every man needs a band of brothers.

Trap 2: Whatever You Say Honey - When God made Eve, He did not say, “I will make for him a suitable leader.” God never intended for husbands to defer and abdicate their leadership to their wives, yet in far too many Christian marriages, that is exactly what has happened. A passive husband is a man who fears his wife more than his God.

You have a burden of responsibility as a man that you must shoulder. Being a man of God, a husband, and a father is a heavy load. Don’t shirk that responsibility, but also, don’t try to carry it alone.

Reflection: Write your responses to the following questions (Don’t skip this!)

What do I need to know?
How do I need to grow?
Where does this need to show up in my life?

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Two Traps Men Fall Into With Their Wives (IMPACT HARD DEVOTIONAL: DAY 8)

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