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I Was Wrong: 7 Statements For The Man Who Just Said Something Harsh To His Wife

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Every husband has spoken harshly, or said something he immediately regretted to his wife. Once you have acted or spoken harshly, trying to undo the mess you have caused is like putting toothpaste back in the tube. You may not be able to undo the mess, but you can take steps to repair it.

Here are 7 statements you can use to get you on the path to healing.

“What I just said was wrong.”
“That came out harsh. Let me take that back.”
“I am sorry. That was unfair, and out of bounds.”
“I don’t know why I just said that…you are not the problem.”
“I got hurt and defensive just then, and I spoke poorly. Let me try again."
“I need to own what I just said, and I owe you an apology.”
“I am not speaking in a loving way. Can we stop and invite the Holy Spirit into this conversation?”

Of course the goal is to never say stupid, selfish, and hurtful things to your wife, but let’s face it, sometimes you react, get angry or defensive and say something you regret. What would your wife do if after you made another boneheaded comment, you paused and said one of those 7 statements? Would she be shocked? Would you respect you more?

Are you ready to lead your family like that?

The Swordsman: Wielding the Word — Part 1: Husbands is a new IMPACT Cohort study for men who desire to be great husbands who are skillfully equipped with the Word of God. We call these men who know how to rightly handle Scripture in their marriage, family, and work lives “Swordsmen.”

The difference between a man with a sword and a swordsman comes down to training and expertise. The Word of God is known as “the sword of the Spirit” and “a double-edged sword,” yet most men have not learned to wield God’s Word like an expert swordsman. In this IMPACT Players Cohort study, men will be trained with the 7 verses that e

A lot of times when we think about spiritual leadership, we imagine ourselves doing hour long Bible studies with our well-behaved children sitting on the floor joyfully and attentively participating. In reality, spiritual leadership often looks like immediately owning up to your hurtful words and asking for forgiveness.

very husband must learn to wield effectively in their marriage.

To learn more about The Swordsman cohort study for men, click here.

Warren Mainard
National Director | IMPACT Players
warrenm@impactplayers.org

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I Was Wrong: 7 Statements For The Man Who Just Said Something Harsh To His Wife

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