Impact Video
Yesterday’s Breakfast Panel: Leading Your Family While Leading In Business
October 26th, 2012

Ideas to Bless Your Family at

Which is easier for you…planning for your company’s success or your family’s success? While building an excellent company is a noble calling with much responsibility, when asked what is most important in our lives most men will say our family is our top priority.

Simple Ideas to Help You Lead a Healthy Family

Like healthy businesses, family health doesn’t just happen. While the list below isn’t meant to be comprehensive, these ideas have helped many IMPACT players improve their marriage and role as dad.

  • Include your wife and children (of all ages) in setting your annual goals. Sitting the family down when all are well-fed and rested to discuss long-term dreams and family goals will increase their ownership in the family. For example:
    • Look for areas of passion and help them pursue those passions.
    • Have a discussion about a family vacation or mission trip and what organizations or people they feel led to financially support.
    • Talk about your financials—how much should be spent for essentials, including recreation, and helping others in greater need.
    • Draw up a family budget and manage accordingly.
    • Do a monthly assessment of spending; it can be a great teaching opportunity regarding self-discipline and deferred gratification.
  • Spend time monthly discussing how family members are doing. This relational checkup is just as important as seeing how your direct reports are doing, or reviewing key indicators and financials in the business.
  • Spend a little time planning how to demonstrate that your loved ones are important. Get coaching and accountability from someone who’ll help with ideas, accept you when you fall short, and encourage you to keep improving.
  • Take time DAILY to communicate with each family member. One may prefer a phone call, and another a text message. Leave a love note on the kitchen sink, bathroom counter, or in the car.
  • Make sure they know you love them, accept them, and they’re important in your life. It needn’t be long or time-consuming. Tell them how important they are, just as you tell your staff and customers how much you appreciate them.
  • Pray often with your spouse to draw close to God and each other. Pray frequently as a family
  • Ask your kids significant questions, not trite, controlling ones; otherwise, they’ll get conditioned to not want to talk. Probing questions can ignite a good discussion. For example, ask: “What do you think about…” or “What do you predict will happen when…?”
  • Ask your kids for their advice. No matter their age, seeking their advice shows you value them, creates connection, and surprisingly may give you a different and valuable perspective to consider.
  • Take a walk with your wife after dinner and inquire about her day. It’s much easier to walk and talk than to sit and stare. Walking eliminates body language and you’ll probably get more mileage from the discussion than from the feet although exercise keeps the body and mind fresh and alive. A healthy marriage is perhaps the best gift we can give our kids…and it helps us succeed in business and other relationships!

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30